Reba says it best...Is There Life Out There

Bootsie is feeling a lot like what Reba describes in her song "Is There Life Out There".  Like the song says "She's done what she should should she do what she dares"...Lord knows I want to!!

Feeling so alive and wanting to experience life, but being tied to someone that doesn't feel the same is really hard and frustrating.  Not talking about major events, just going to the grocery story can be an adventure or at least a light hearted and fun trip, cooking dinner, working in the yard or doing a project can be done with laughter and smiles.

Trying to be upbeat and positive to motivate others and getting no where is exhausting!  Being an  upbeat person myself (most of the time) I have a hard time understanding inactivity and depressed tendencies.  We all have bad days and days we don't feel quite right and are out of sorts, but when it becomes a way of life its time to do something differently...you keep doing the same thing you'll keep getting the same results!!  It's a vicious circle...that I need to break...some how I have to figure out how to "light a fire" and get others motivated and interested in life again.

Life is too short to let it pass you by! Like Reba's song says, We've done what we should now it's time to do what we want and dare.  But, damn it you have to get off the couch!  Nothing is going to get done by itself!!  Frustration is a hard emotion to control!   Makes me want to explode!

Habits are so hard to break, coming home from work, popping a beer, having dinner and then spending the rest of the night on the couch is not my idea of a good time.  At least not every night...sometimes chilling out is a must and I do my share. And sometimes the couch can be a fun place..."sometimes" being the key word!!

I want to feel happy, special and alive again.  And I want the person with me to feel the same...I know that's not too much to ask for!!  I'm just stumped on how to accomplish this goal.

It's a two way street...I can give and try all I want to, but if the other party doesn't participate it's all for naught!!


Nothing works, hints, suggestions, anger, crying or throwing a fit get his attention...the last resort is simply to leave.  That has never been an option until now...but it feels like that's the only way to get his attention to realize I'm not happy with our relationship right now and I want to work on it...but again, it's a two way street and right now I feel it's a one way street and the street is leading down the road.  It hasn't always been this way and I want to get back to the way it was!!

This current cycle is wearing me out!!

Feeling sad, frustrated, angry and tired...it doesn't have to be this way...a little effort would go a long way. 

Lord help me figure this out!!

Life is good, keep it real!

Memory Lane

This was actually written March 15, 2014...not sure why I didn't post!  Even through I wrote this two years ago re-reading brought all the memories back so clearly!  Some things you never forget!


Its amazing how wonderful a few hours can be when spent reconnecting and reminiscing.  Making new memories and laughing like kids and wishing you were kids again when the rules of life were different.  A trip down memory lane can be an invigorating and enlighten trip.  Wish the trip didn't have to end.

Back to the real world!!

Life is good, keep it real.

Daily adventures...big and small!!

Life is full of adventures, sometimes you have to make them happen, but often times its just daily life...we have adventures every day, all we have to do is pay attention!!  Kind of like signs from the Lord, they are there we just need to pay attention.

Often times as I reflect back on my day and really think about the way things worked out, I know it was the Lord.  Like, the green lights all the way to work when I'm running late, the open parking spot on the first floor of the garage, saying the right words at the right time, having the right answer for the boss when put on the spot, missing the squirrel that ran in front of the car, a phone call from a special person, seeing a beautiful sunrise on the way to work, etc...it's like "WoW, I know that was you Lord.  Thanks".  So you see adventures can be the little things in life. 

Adventures come in all sizes, small, medium, large and every size in between!  Pay attention and enjoy them.  To me an adventure can be something as small as trying a new food or driving down a different street.  The core make up of life is the day to day little things.  Of course, we all have major adventures like, vacations, sporting events, visits with friends and family, births, weddings, funerals etc...but the little things are what really keep it together.

Today's main adventure was; we woke up to no hot water, none, zilch, nada, none!!  And it's 30 degrees, so not even going to think about taking a cold shower. 

Called a couple of plumbing companies, finally got one to come out.  We were fortunate it was the two heating elements, only $175.00.  Whew!!  Thank you Lord!! 

Also, went to the AT&T store and found ways to save money on the phone bill!!  Score!!  Stopped by TSO and had my glasses adjusted, much better and more comfortable!!  Plus they take our vision care insurance!!  Another score!!  Mr. Husband needs an eye exam and glasses, so this is good news!!

I know this post is kind of random and not dedicated to one subject, but that's how I'm feeling today.  Kind of random and out of sorts!!  Why?  I'm not sure.  Could be the, cold, dreary, cloudy weather we're experiencing, I function much better when the sun is shining!!

Guess I'll stop rambling!!

Life is good, keep it real!!

Hopeless Romantic

Bootsie is a hopeless romantic!!  Mr. Husband not so much, he does have his moments and they are not lost on me.  I totally key in on them...as far and few between as they are!!

It really is the simple things in a relationship and life that complete it, every day is a treasure and should be enjoyed and celebrated.

Dinner on the patio

Have a drink

Eye contact from across the room

 

A quick wink

Secrete smile

Slipping your arms around the waist from behind with a slight squeeze

Sweet quick kiss

Sitting next to each other holding hands while watching TV

 

A spontaneous dance in the kitchen

Playful teasing

Teasing can be the promise of more to come from the moment you walk in the door. Romantic gestures are foreplay and can lead to an intimacy that will leave you breathless and in awe of the beauty of just being together.

Life is good, keep it real!!

Boyfriend/girlfriend vs Husband/wife

Ever wonder how different marriages would be if husbands and wives treated each other like boyfriends and girlfriends?   Like in the beginning of a relationship when you're considerate of each others feelings and are on your best behavior.  Well, Bootsie is trying to test this theory...

Bootsie:  I would like to be treated like a girlfriend once a month?  What to you think?

Mr. Husband:  What?  You are my girlfriend.

Bootsie:  Key word "treated" like a girlfriend.  You know nothing elaborate like a fancy dinner or flowers (although that would be awesome), but that's not what I'm talking about.  Think simpler, like no "hey, pull my finger" and then farting in the kitchen or burping really loud while talking to me etc...you get the idea.  It really is the simple things...really it is!!

Mr.  Husband:   But those things are funny and I if I can't do them at home where else is there.  Besides I save the best you Babe!!

Bootsie:  Agreed, sometime those things are funny and we've had many laughs at inappropriate bodily functions.  However, one day a month control those actions...that's not asking too much is it?  One day a month turn music on instead of the TV.

Mr.  Husband:  Makes no comment!  :-/

Bootsie:  I'm not asking you to do anything I'm not willing to do too.  I'll treat you like a boyfriend one day a month too.  For example, I won't come home and immediately change into ratty comfy clothes and pull my hair back in a ponytail (don't care if you think it's cute). We'll have a candle light dinner in the dining room with pretty plates, wine and dessert.

Mr. Husband:  No comment, again! :-/

At this point I'm beginning to wonder what it will take for Mr. Husband to get the message...obviously gentle hints and suggests are lost on him.  Or are they?  He is a man of few words, so maybe, just maybe he is processing and contemplating his next move.  One can only hope...

If there is one piece of advice for all couples to remember it is this:

Never stop courting your wife and never stop flirting with your husband

A special person in my life has told me one than once:  "Never give up"

Life is good, keep it real!!



Charlie Pride - 75 years young and still going strong

It's funny how life throws things at you.  Mr. Husband and I were having dinner at his favorite Mexican restaurant and I was thumbing through the Fort Worth Weekly magazine and on the back page was an advertisement:

 Charlie Pride

Arlington Music Hall,

Saturday, February 1, 2014

7:30 - 9:00

 

O.M.G. I grew up listening to Charlie Pride and I've wanted to see him for years...well, guess what? 

Mr. Husband and I went to Arlington Music Hall and enjoyed Charlie Pride!!!  He played all his old songs and a couple of newer ones, the whole audience was on their feet clapping and singing every word along with him, myself included!!  It was great!!  Brought back many childhood memories.

 

Backing up a couple of hours before the show, we got there 6:00ish, Arlington Music Hall is an old movie theater that's been converted to a concert venue.  We went to the ticket counter and retrieved our tickets, the nice attendant told us there was a bar and snack bar in the back.  Cool, we'll go have a beer and wait for the show.   So off we go to the back for a beer...then we notice our surroundings!!

 

Mr. Husband:  I'll get us a beer.

 

Bootsie:  Okay

 

Mr. Husband:  Have you noticed we're the youngest people in here and the only ones drinking beer!!

 

Bootsie:  What? No, way...

 

Mr. Husband:  Yes, way.  Look around!!

 

Bootsie:  Ummm, oh well...

 

It was true!!  Looking around everyone else looked WAY older than us and they were drinking coffee from small white Styrofoam cups!!  Don't think I've ever seen so many men with "rugs" or women with furs and jewels, they were all dressed up for a "night on the town" like it was 40 years ago!!  Old people are so funny...

 

Closer to show time a few younger couples showed up and went to the bar for beer!!  I use the word "bar" very loosely, it was a table with a hutch set up in the corner of the room...CASH only!!  And the snack bar, basically a couple of  bigger tables set up with popcorn, candy bars, nachos, hot dogs, chips...like a high school concession stand!!  It was hilarious!!

 

It was a great adventure and we had a lovely night "out on the town", and I use that term loosely too, because the show was over by 9:00 so we were out in time to buy Texas Lotto tickets and were home by 10:00pm.  LOL!!  We're such "party animals"!!

 

Life is good, keep it real!!

 



Disappointments, Discouragement, Let down

When you look forward to something, an event, a visit or just an ordinary day and it doesn't happen like it's supposed to, disappointment always follows.  Sometimes controlling emotions is like trying to nail Jello to a tree...it ain't happening!!!

Disappointment

When all you want is to be number one to one person
For an hour, a day or a life time it is a precious time no matter how long or short
Windows of opportunity are small cracks
When missed or ignored the cracks narrow

Plans are made, plans are broken

Take it personal or accept the circumstances

Sometimes acceptance is the only way
Heartbreak is heartbreak
No matter what the intentions
Hurt is hurt
Raw emotions cannot be controlled or altered
They are what they are
It is what it is
Good or bad emotions have no boundaries
Delicate or sturdy emotions are fragile
Not to be taken for granted
Disappointment instills strength and durability
Never mistake strength and durability for automatic acceptance
Acceptance is learned not earned, when earned, lesson has been learned

Being dismissed, replaced or put off is seldom a feeling of comfort.

Life is good, keep it real.

 

 

Back to two...

Everyone loves the newness of a new relationship, the butterflies you feel when you see the person after a separation no matter how long or short the separation has been, the I can keep my hands off you, the I want to spend every waking moment with you, etc...you get the idea!!

The challenge is keeping those feelings alive long term. Keeping the newness and spontaneity going after being together for a while. 

Back to Two

begins with everything new and exciting

never knowing what to expect is invigorating

spontaneous kiss, a simple touch sends you over the edge wanting more

 

comfortableness and contentment settle in

years go rocking by, American dream is achieved

time is spent keeping up with the world, home, work, kids, family and friends,

less spontaneity and excitement

 

kids gone living their own lives

contentment becomes stagnant

excitement gone nothing new

spontaneous kissing seldom simple touches are few

all seems right on the outside, inside is dying

 

a dance in the kitchen while cooking

beer on a Tuesday night 

brief love note in lunch box

phone call in the middle of day

 

Hopeful, spontaneity, excitement and newness

being brought back to life

newness and excitement from the old is accomplished - awesome

 

 

Relationships are hard, whether it's parent/child, boyfriend/girlfriend, sibling/sibling, husband/wife all relationships take time, patience, understanding, forgiveness, praising and brutal honesty.

 

Learn from the relationships you have built, keep making them better.  Use the knowledge to build future relationships.  Just remember no two relationships are alike and each require their own unique touches.

 

There are no right or wrong answers and there is no instruction book...

 

Life is good, keep it real 

 

 

 

 

 

Christmas 2013

Christmas 2013 season was crazy, chaotic, fast and furious!!  Just a few highlights...

December 20, 2013 Mr. Husband and Bootsie drove to Houston/Magnolia to help the Daughter #2 and husband move into their dream house!!  Today is also Daughter #1 and husband's 11 wedding anniversary...time does fly!!

December 21, 2013 after a 12 hour day of loading, moving, cleaning, unloading and unpacking the kids are all moved in...finally time to sit in the hot tub, enjoy a cool adult beverage and relax!!  Ahhhh...

The new house is awesome and we as parents could not be more proud of these kids and all they've accomplished in the fast 4 1/2 years since they've been married.  They had a plan and they stuck to it and all their hard work paid off!!!

December 22, 2013 Mr. Husband and Bootsie drive home from Magnolia to prepare for Christmas Eve with the family.  After the four hour drive we find the energy to go grocery shopping...it was brutal, but so worth it!!

December 23, 2013 Daughter #2 and husband drive to Fort Worth to celebrate Christmas with the family.  So...they get here and the first thing Daughter #2 does is bring out this small gift bag and says "hey, mom, we got you and daddy a little something to say "thank you" for helping us move".  I open the bag and find a baby rattler...O.M.G.   She is pregnant!!!  We're going to be grandparents again!!!  We can not be happier!!!  Daughter #2 has wanted a baby for a long time, but has waiting for the right time in the "plan"...her timing couldn't be more perfect!! 

Needless to say we are all about to bust to tell the world!!

December 24, 2013 time to tell the sisters and other close family members the good news!!  Daughter #2 has two small gift bags and gives each sister a bag and tells them they have to open the bags at the same time because it's the same gift and she wants them to see it at the same time...surprise!!!  Both sisters are so excited!!! 

Now all we have to do is wait until August/September 2014!!  Baby time!!

Life is good, keep it real!!